Friday, April 8, 2011

Love and Numerology

Love Numerology

Numerology, like Astrology, is a belief system that is traced back many centuries. The basic idea is that we are influenced to some extent by our birth name and birth date. It is believed that numerology can not only help you better understand yourself, but it can also help you to better understand your relationships.

 Destiny Number calculation instructions

Numerology works by assigning a numeric value to your birth name. Basically, the numerology system uses a letter chart to assign a number to each letter.


Start by writing your full birth name down and then assigning a number for each letter of your name.

For instance:
John Joseph Doe
JOHN = 1 + 6 + 8 + 5 = 20 = 2
(Note - when you have a 2 digit number, you add the two numbers together)
JOSEPH = 1 + 6 + 1 + 5 + 7 + 8 = 28 = 10 = 1
DOE = 4 + 6 + 5 = 15 = 6

Now calculate your destiny number.
2 + 1 + 6 = 9

You Destiny number is what provides you with the information about yourself.
If you get an 11 or 22 above, these are "master numbers" that have their own special meaning on top of their single number represenation.

What the Numbers Mean

Before you can understand how numerology effects your relationships, you must first know how it effects you as an individual.

1 - Ambitious, adventurous, independent, self-sufficient, original, individual
2 - Supportive, diplomatic, analytical, kind, sensitive, intuitive, cautious
3 - Enthusiastic, optimistic, fun-loving, inspired, visionary, creative, happy, artistic
4 - Practical, traditional, serious, management, conservative, efficient, organized
5 - Adventurous, mercurial, inventive, flexible
6 - Responsible, careful, domestic, passionate, harmonious, trusting, creative
7 - Spiritual, eccentric, analytical, calculative, understood, intuitive, investigative, solitary
8 - Power, financially aware, authoritative, organized, efficient, skilled, decisive, stern
9 - Multi-talented, compassionate, creative, imaginative, benevolent, intuitive, generous, devoted, dedicated, emotional
11 - Aware, creative, dreamy, enlightened, intense
22 - goal-oriented, great achiever, ingenuous, innovative

There are more individual numerology calculations if you'd like to learn more about yourself as an individual.

Numerology, Love and Relationships

Like your birth sign, your numerological number also plays an important role in your love life and relationships. Numerology can explain why some relationships are more deep and intimate than others. It can also help you to improve your current relationships, understand how you compliment each other, and avoid any pitfalls that may arise.

While numerology can provide you with an insight into yourself and your relationship, remember that many things contribute to a successful relationship and if you are meant to be together, you will be, regardless of your numerology results.

Numerology and Married Names
A name is more than a label. It is the key to who you are and can be a powerful influence in your life. Your true numerology reading comes from your birth name, which reflects your talents, strengths, weaknesses, unique character traits, and more. This name is the closest to who you truly are. If you are married and have changed your name, you may want a numerology reading on your married name as well. Because a loving relationship has a beneficial impact on the woman, these energies impact her numerology reading.

Partner Numbers
Your partner number is a love numerology calculation you can do to gain insight into the strengths and weaknesses of your current relationship.

Determining your Compatibility with Love Numerology
To determine your love numerology, you must first determine both your own destiny number and your partner's destiny number (see above to calculate your destiny number). Next, find your match below:

1 & 1 - A natural fit.
You are two independent spirits with a desire to lead. You may have the desire to compete, but you need to set common goals and strive to reach them together. As accepting individuals, you'll have an exciting and passionate romance.

1 & 2 - A challenging fit.
Your relationship could work if you both remember to keep working at it. Generally, this match works better in stereotypical roles with the 1 being the breadwinner and the 2 being the homemaker. You'll have to work more than others to keep the romance alive, but if you do, you'll have a great relationship.

1 & 3 - A compatible fit.
You compliment each other well. Whether it be a business or relationship, the 3, a creative individual, provides many ideas, while the 1, helps guide these ideas to fruition. This is a fun match with no dull moments.

1 &4 - A challenging fit.
Your relationship is a difficult one. The 1 is an independent spirit and the 4 tends to like control. If you respect each other, listen to one another, and accept each other for who they are, you will do well.

1 & 5 - A natural fit.
You are two independent spirits and your relationship has extreme passion. If you allow each other the space that you need and desire, you'll continue to live with passion and romance.

1 & 6 - A challenging fit.
Your relationship will be a more challenging one because the 1 is an independent spirit, while the 6 tends to be a caretaker. You're relationship will be a happy one, but only if you respect each other and give each other the support that you both need.

1 & 7 - A natural fit.
You're both very different, but you work quite well together. You work especially well together intellectually as the 7 has great insights and the 1 motivates well. Though you may sometimes get busy, you have wonderful passion together.

1 & 8 - A neutral fit.
Your relationship is a difficult one as you are both assertive and somewhat demanding in life. You're both ambitious and would work quite well together in a business sense. Set your romantic priorities and respect each other's limits. If you are open and willing to compromise you should do just fine.

1 & 9 - A compatible fit.
You're different, yet compatible at the same time. The 9, a very giving individual, may have a difficult time in tolerating the 1, an independent spirit. If you accept each others differences, the passion will come.

2 &2 - A natural fit.
Your relationship is a great one filled with romance and love. You're so alike that you may get on each other's nerves, so be careful to avoid petty disputes. Your mutual love and respect will help to kept the love flowing.

2 & 3 - A compatible fit.
You have great chemistry together. Your relationship is one filled with energy, humor, and love. You balance each other well and while you may have difficulties ahead, if you focus on your mutual interests and remain patient, things will balance themselves out.

2 & 4 - A natural fit.
Your relationship is one of steadiness and stability. While you may lack the excitement of some other pairings, you both prefer the humdrum of home and family. You're love will last and you're in this for the long haul.

2 & 5 - A challenging fit.
Yours is a difficult relationship as you have very different personalities. The 5 tends to need a freedom that the 2 doesn't desire. If you continuously work at it, your love will grow strong.

2 & 6 - A compatible fit.
The two of you are quite compatible together. The 2's caring nature and desire for love fits well with the 6' need for family. Be considerate of one another's feelings and you'll continue to grow together.

2 & 7 - A challenging fit.
Yours is a difficult relationship because the 7 has a need for space and solitude, while the 2 has a great need to be shown love. If you stay tuned to each other's needs, wants, and desires, your relationship will continue to grow.

2 & 8 - A natural fit.
You compliment each other perfectly. The 2's desire for love and family works well with the 8's desire to succeed and provide for the family. This pairing works especially well in the traditional family model. Count your blessings, because your relationship is one that will last.

2 & 9 - A neutral fit.
Your relationship could go either way. The 2 desires love and the 9 likes to provide this, but the love that 9 provides is not always directed towards their partner. If it is, your relationship will be full of passion.

3 & 3 - A natural fit.
This is relationship is definitely a wild ride. Each of you are fun individually, but together your social life explodes. Avoid overdoing it and remember to stay grounded in the everyday aspects of your relationship. Work at building this stability so that the passion doesn't explode.

3 & 4 - A challenging fit.
This is a difficult relationship because the 3 is spontaneous and takes things as they come, while the 4 tends to micro-manage. If you allow each other space and learn to meet in the middle, you'll do just fine.

3 &5 - A compatible fit.
Your relationship is one of passion and partying. Both social and entertaining numbers, your relationship will never dull. While creative, more everyday, mundane tasks, such as financial affairs, can become problematic. Work together, pay attention to everyday obligations and you'll do well.

3 & 6 - A natural fit.
Your relationship comes naturally as you have chemistry and compatibility. You work together well as the 3's creativeness is balanced by the 6's stability. Keep each other's feelings in mind and you'll have a happy home life.

3 & 7 - A challenging fit.
Yours is a difficult relationship as your personalities are extremely different. The 7 is a individual who needs solitude, while the 3 is often caught up in a social whirlwind. Do not confront one another. Instead, be understanding and willing to compromise. Remember your differences and work them out together.

3 & 8 - A challenging fit.
You relationship is one to prove that opposites attract -- and last. It will be a difficult road because the social interaction that the 3 needs and desires will not be met by the 8 who has a need for authority. Take time away and enjoy each other and you should be able to make this work.

3 & 9 - A natural fit.
You work so well together because of your creativeness, social ability, and desire to see life as your own personal stage. As long as you remember to share your spotlight in life, you'll avoid the negative effects. While your relationship tends to be filled with romantic adventures and excitement, don't forget every day tasks that life and relationships require.

4 & 4 - A natural fit.
Yours is a solid relationship built on solid values and common goals. You both desire success, just be sure that part of this success is in your relationship and romance. Remember that it's ok to be spontaneous and try to avoid being stubborn. Your relationship is one of the most stable and is destined to last a lifetime.

4 & 5 - A challenging fit.
Yours is a difficult relationship, mostly because of your temperaments and communication skills. While the 4 is very direct, the 5 tends to be the complete opposite. Pay attention to what is said and what is inferred and you should do fine.

4 & 6 - A compatible fit.
Your relationship is one of comfort and stability. You're destined to have a solid relationship and a happy home life, so long as you remember to compromise and show affection.

4 & 7 - A compatible fit.
You're a good match, but as a couple, you tend to be extremely serious. You are both devoted and loyal, but you may be a bit too serious, lacking passion and desire. Try to ease up from time to time and enjoy your life together.

4 & 8 - A natural fit.
Your relationship is comfortable and stable as you are both hardworking and have a desire to build a secure future together. Just be sure to step back from your planning to spend time together. Perhaps you should use those planning desires to plan a romantic getaway.

4 & 9 - A challenging fit.
Yours is a difficult relationship because you are so very different. While the 4 is secure and solid, the 9 tends to be more social. To make this work, you must really focus on the things you have in common.

5 &5 - A natural fit.
An adventurous couple that values freedom, you have a relationship filled with passion and drama. You work especially well together because you are accepting and tend to stay out each other's way. Just be sure to stay focus and avoid needless jealousy and all should go well.

5 & 6 - A challenging fit.
Yours is a difficult relationship because the 6 wants commitment and the 5 desires freedom. To make this relationship work, you need to learn the art of compromise.

5 & 7 - A natural fit.
You have an easy relationship built on individual freedom. Intellectually, you'll never run out of things to discuss. The problem occurs if you forget to make time for each other.

5 & 8 - A neutral fit.
Your relationship will require a bit more work and compromise than others. The 5 seeks freedom, while the 8 likes to control. If you carefully plan and compromise, your relationship will work.

5 & 9 - A compatible fit.
You are compatible, though you must take time for your relationship in the midst of your business. Though your relationship is likely going through changes, explore all possibilities and establish a secure commitment.

6 & 6 - A natural fit.
You are a natural pair with a relationship filled with relationship, love, and a commitment to family. Your natural desire to lead your family could cause stress in your relationship, so compromise and learn to accept each other's faults.

6 & 7 - A challenging fit.
Your relationship is a difficult combination requiring some compromise. The 6 may be controlling, while the 7 doesn't like to be controlled. Look to the long term and try to see the big picture and you will work through your natural tendencies.

6 & 8 - A compatible fit.
You're a great match of two honest, open, and positive individuals. You compliment each other well. If 6 curbs the possessiveness and 8 takes time for love and home, you'll endure.

6 & 9 - A natural fit.
You are a compatible, happy couple with respect and admiration for one another. Allow for some individual differences and your relationship will last a lifetime.

7 &7 - A natural fit.
You are a natural fit together. Explore life and your relationship and allow for some individual eccentricities. Remember to communicate with one another and your romance will endure.

7 & 8 - A challenging fit.
Yours is a difficult relationship as 8 wants to control and 7 resists control. You work well together physically, but you need to make sure to connect on an emotional level with arguments. If you can compromise, you'll bring stability to your relationship.

7 & 9 - A neutral fit.
Your relationship depends on your spiritual attraction. If your spiritual beliefs align, you're relationship will endure. If you're spiritual beliefs divide, then compromise is not likely to help.

8 & 8 - A natural fit.
A strong match, your relationship is filled with romance and passion. You are a solid match, but communication could be a downfall. Be sure to make time for each other, communicate with one another, and focus on being equals.

8 & 9 - A challenging fit.
Yours is a difficult relationship because of your personality differences. The 9 is a humanitarian, while the 8 seeks material rewards. There is a potential for much love and harmony together, but you must recognize your priorities and learn from one another.

9 & 9 - A natural fit.
Your relationship is a natural fit with much romantic promise. You share a selfless nature, each wanting to please the other. As long as you are there for one another, you'll grow and continue to share the deep bond that you have formed.

11 & any number.
See the section for destiny number 2 & the partnering number. Your destiny number of 11 is added together to become two for the purposes of your love numerology reading.

22 & any number.
See the section for destiny number 4 & the partnering number. Your destiny number of 2 is added together to become four for the purposes of your love numerology reading.

Sunday, April 3, 2011

Love Relationships and Their Karmic Ties

A powerful love relationship (whether espressed positively or negatively) probably has karmic undercurrents to it. We can look at this from the viewpoint that these two people have interacted in a past life. Or, we can take the perspective that we attract certain types of people in order to work out old issues of ours. Either viewpoint is feasible and can be dealt with. After all, "karma" simply means "consequences".

The idea of karma in a relationship is sort of spooky, no matter how it is manifesting. There are feelings of deja vu and an underlying knowledge of what makes the other person tick. This can be a positive expression, deepening the emotions and making one far more conscious of their actions and behavior than they might be ordinarily. It may be a negative expression, wherein two people act out an old behavior pattern from the past as if it were a film loop, running over and over the same material.
Many people will make their decisions about a relationship based upon the karma it carries. This can cause some to avoid any connection, because of an understanding that this relationship will be "high maintenance", meaning that a lot of discussion is required, lots of working out of misunderstandings, choices, etc. This appears to be part of the consequence of running a more "conscious" relationship.
Nasty karmic situations are often marked by violence or tragedy. Some long-term abuse situations appear to be old habit patterns in action, a "We've always done this," sort of condition.
Breaking out of a karmic pattern can be constructive whether the love relationship is having trouble or not. A lovely bit of synchronicity in this is that whenever we make the choice to work out relationship karma, we are demonstrating our readiness to be free of it. Here are some examples of how this can work:
Our own repetitive behavior:
If we find ourself attracting the same sort of "wrong" partner each time, we can explore how our needs for this are now fulfilled. For example, women often complain they have come across "another emotionally unavailable man," who comes close only to distance himself later down the road.
Compulsions with a partner:

When we are in a punishment or debt-oriented cycle with a specific partner, we can choose to work together as equals to end the old competitive pattern. We can set aside our need to be right, or controlling and find ways to support one another.
Same old thing, tra la:
If we have found a favorite pastlife partner with whom we just like to spend time with, we can move our attention to creating new goals to accomplish together. This is a fantastic way to build positive karma that you can reap from life and life.
Making a karmic situation more conscious is always very rewarding. I liken it to getting the steering wheel back after the car has been running out of control. Our spiritual debts, mental patterns and personality quirks are things that we can move through and consequently transform. This is our evolutionary destiny and we can influence it.
So don't fear that all karmic love relationships have to be challenging and difficult. As we choose to be more conscious we can transform negative patterns by choosing more conscious and loving behaviors.

here are some who say that all love relationships are karmic in nature and this may have validity from the perspective that we are all one and come from the same source. For our purposes though, I'm discussing this in terms of subconscious habit patterns that bring us into contact with the same individual lifetime after lifetime, or a pattern which causes us to attract certain consequences on a repetitive basis.
In this column we'll look at what happens when we keep meeting the same person. "Coincidences" run rampant and there may be a frequent sense of deja vu. We may find ourselves in situations or conversations where we feel that we've been handed a script and we know just what our lines are. This can be disturbing, since it's definitely out of the ordinary, and we may wonder what it means. I expect that quite a few people run from a particular relationship just because they sense the repercussions ahead.
We can safely assume that we continue to be drawn to the same person in order to share learning and assist in each other's evolutionary process. The trick here seems to be that we must manage to avoid acting out the same experiences and instead, develop new approaches and solutions to life. It can seem so much easier though, to follow in time-worn habits of behavior, some of which may seem "right" simply because we've done them so often. These can include being the punching bag for the partner who has never been motivated to find a different expression for his/her anger, or being the "bad guy" for the martyr who has developed no other focus for self-esteem. Our job in the relationship is to provide an evolutionary impetus for each other to find the new solutions and not play out roles which are damaging to ourselves and our partners.
A more positive view of this situation occurs when both partners have the intention to grow as individuals. In this case, our partner can provide an objective perspective of a behavior or recurring difficulty, allowing us to look beyond our typical solutions. On occasion this objective perspective can manifest as a very loud yell in our ear, breaking through a comfort zone and demanding that we wake up. Regardless of the means, it is difficult to remain oblivious to the consequences of our behavior while in a karmic relationship.
Sometimes we will come together with someone in order to balance old debts. This is very common and can sometimes be misleading. That occurs when we believe that this is a lifetime relationship but it is actually intended to last only long enough to even an old score. I suspect that this is what happens sometimes in marriages when one partner supports another through an educational phase and then the educated partner leaves. Perhaps this was a pay-back of support given in the other direction in the past. When we look at such a situation only in terms of current conditions though, it can be very upsetting.
In the next love and relationship article based on metaphysics, we'll look at how to make more conscious use of the evolutionary possibilities inherent in a karmic relationship.
In this relationship article we'll be looking at ways to make more conscious use of the evolutionary possibilities in a karmic relationship. Many of the suggestions for a successful relationship with karmic ties are identical to those you'll find recommended for soulmates. In my opinion, all soulmate connections are karmic, but not all karmic relationships involve soulmates. Some may consider this a good thing, due to the fact that a soul mate relationship requires a large committment to our spiritual growth...and not necessarily the easy way.
Part two of this series describes some of the clues for understanding whether you're involved in such a love relationship. When it has become obvious that we're involved in a karmic relationship of some kind, there are certain things we can do to move it in the best direction. We can be in a karmic relationship with anyone, a lover, the postman, dear old mom, anyone. Rather than feel that we are a victim of this phenomenon, we can assume a perspective which is more positive, healthy and life-affirming.
In metaphysics, this means that we have to be willing to have faith in certain principles. In this situation, one could have faith in the idea that this relationship isn't in your life to punish you, but instead, as a reward. You have been given the opportunity to advance your personal evolution through the dynamic of this relationship. View your situation as this: the person you are relating to is an angelic messenger for you, a special tutor in the game of human existence. With this perspective, you will tap into the God-Self of that person. This is an amazing experience.
Learning to do this is relatively easy, if you have the nerve to follow through with it. At issue of course, is the risk of opening up. One of the nice things about a karmic relationship is that there's a degree of familiarity already, so opening one's heart and soul can be somewhat easier. An open heart and soul are necessary to personal evolution. The idea is that this is a type of personal growth that will last you for more than one existence. Long term gains.
Communication is usually the key to making the relationship perform a positive function. This of course is a tool for opening up. To bring out the positive function of a karmic relationship, it is necessary that we confront the fact that this is what is happening and talk to the other person about it. This means that we have to discuss the condition of our soul with our friend and hopefully, they will return the favor. Right away this eliminates many of the karmic implications of the relationship, since getting through the secrets and illusions has mostly been accomplished.
What we must understand is that in a karmic relationship we are dealing with raw, vulnerable, soul stuff. The masks of ego are simply a distraction and can be rather ruthlessly violated if we do not open up willingly. This is where the unpleasant aspects of a karmic relationship can come in. Sometimes very little can happen in the relationship except for beating away at egoic structures, because neither party is willing to release them and learn their real lessons from each other.
The lessons that we have to learn from each other can be as varied as life itself. One may be certain however, that the lesson is deep, personal and one that, left to our own devices, we would probably avoid. This may be why such spiritual devices are part of our lives, to provide an external force to motivate the learning experience. Our "karmic buddy" is in our lives to assist in our learning, and we supply the same service to them.
Karmic relationships are valuable gifts that can help us on our spiritual journey. This can only occur however, if we're willing to let go of the petty ego structures that we find useful as one-lifetime-only propositions. When we can take our entire spiritual existence into account and act from that perspective, major learning experiences can take place.